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Code Word - "Shoot Up."

Code word:  Shoot up!We know we have a special language - it's been confirmed in several editions of dTOES - and almost all of us in this community recognize the different terms.

But sometimes, those terms drop from the mouths of our friends, and the sound always amazes me.

Like yesterday morning, I was having a marathon phone conversation with Batman, and she mentioned that she told one of her co-workers about me having diabetes.  "I was like, yeah, Kerri is a type 1 and she wears an insulin pump ..." and she kept talking but the phrase "a type 1" stuck in my head.  Batman and I don't talk about diabetes much, but she's one of my closest friends and this language has become part of her vernacular almost by osmosis. 

It's my diabetes and my disease to manage, but my closest friends and family members are so tuned in to it that they don't even notice anymore.  Needles in my purse are par for the course.  Looking at me and casually mentioning, "Ker, your wire is out," happens all the time.  "Whoa, that'll empty out a pump," after seeing a huge dessert delivered to a table.  Smooshed granola bars and stashes of juice boxes have found their way into everyone's glove compartments, and I'm not even sure they realize it.  Numbers like 98 and 112 become amusing - "Hey, that's like a perfect blood sugar!" - and people's mentions of "juvenile diabetes" are quickly corrected as "Yeah, they used to call it that but now it's type 1 diabetes." 

"Oh my gosh, that looks delicious  You think like 40 grams of carbs?"
"Dude, let's go in the water.  Throw your pump in the cooler!"
"We've got everything we need for the hike:  water bottle, sunscreen, and sunscreen." 

They "get it," but the best part is that they don't realize how much they've "gotten it."  Their level of understanding is so intrinsic and instinctive that they barely notice. 

I rely on these people so much.   My meter gives me blood sugar results and my pump delivers life-sustaining insulin, but my emotional health is nurtured and cared for by my outstanding support team.  It blows my mind to think about how many people are really needed to keep me healthy.  My endocrinolgist and my primary care physician monitior my physiological progress and keep me steeped in information.  My ob/gyn keeps tabs on my reproductive system and helps me prepare my body for baby.  My retinologist watches out for those pesky eye issues.

But there's so much more than just the doctors with initials after their names.  There's my mom and dad remind me that regardless of how old I become, I'm still their daughter and still their worry.  My brother and sister, who know how to support without smothering.  My close friends, who make sure my life is as free as theirs, but just in case, they keep juice at the ready.  And my husband, who loves me in sickness and in health, not letting diabetes define our relationship - or us.

"Oh, the food's here.  Time to shoot up."  

That's a phrase only a diabetic, or a person who cares for a diabetic, would understand.

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Gods, yeah...

Then again, the keys to emotional health and success are being light-hearted about it and having people who not only understand, but who are understanding about it.

how about it. my friends/family all call my little kit bag my "substitute pancreas" or just "pancreas."

"dude, i'm throwin your pancreas in the cooler."

sounds weird to the outsiders, but to think back on it...it's great to have this support system.

I love when my son asks, "Are you high?"

That sign of him understanding and caring means so much.

My mom developed my original code phrase, "Better go do your thing" because I used to do my shot in the bathroom whenever we ate out. I still catch myself saying it sometimes, though I tend to "shoot up" at my seat nowadays :)

"Shoot up" seems to be one of the earliest phrases adopted by my friends as they become acclimated to my diabetes, for some reason--those it's rarer now that I'm on a pump. My family still uses it, though--and I still find it funny!

Plus it seems way cooler to 'shoot up' than to 'dial it in'.

I went to the beach this weekend and am using an arm site. I got slightly burned around the site and one of my students today said she noticed it this morning and thought 'yeah, it must be hard to get suncreen around that insulin thingy' :)

My husband had gotten quite used to trying to guesstimate carbs when we eat out. Actually, we make a good team. He usually guesses on the conservative side - because he doesn't want me going low. I tend to over-estimate them, 'cuz I don't want to be high. If I just split the difference, it's often right on target!

Oh so true!
Thanks to the many "insider outsiders" that have taken the time to understand, listen, be there, laugh With us and just love, care & support.

So was laughing about "juvenile diabetes". OMG.

When I went to DC and met with my Congressman, HE used that. I laughed at him. I said, "Well, sir, yes, when I was diagnosed at 6 that is what they called it. Then I got to my teens and it did not quite fit so I went through the 'teen diabetes' then the 'high school diabetes', oh so different are/were they, then there was the 'college or early 20s diabetes' and now I think I am on my 'mid-life crisis diabetes' stage."

He laughed and said no doubt I have a great attitude. I said there is no other way, diagnosis until the Good Lord takes me, I will always have Type 1 Diabetes. Beyond that and more importantly, I will always need insulin.

Which then prompted more talk of Legislation before Congress....uh, we need more money for research....and all that Jazz!

Thanks for sharing Kerri!

To Shooting Up and Beyond!

Great post! I have so many examples of that in my life, too. The one that made me laugh most was this morning, though, and it had to do with the dog. My husband was describing her routine to someone else "shoot her up at 6:30 before you take her down," and the other person totally got it.

Meaning, of course, "give her her shot at 6:30 before taking her (downstairs) for a walk." :)

How do you let go and let others help you? Diabetes is such a part of my life but I'm afraid it will affect my relationship with others so I keep it to myself so they don't have to deal with it. I try to hide it but a part of me knows others care...

I am totally the opposite. Being diagnosed at age 36 and living on the other side of the country from my parents/friends they continually forget that I even have this disease. When my mom comes for a visit she always wants to make a big pasta dinner. I say 'mom, it's different now' and she says 'oh, yeah, I keep forgetting'.
The only one who really get it is my hubby.

Wonderful post. I think it is so special to have that kind of love and support.

Being diagnosed as an adult has put a different spin on it, in my life. Those very few close friends that know, don't really want to know. They still see me the same way, which is good, but I don't "feel" the same way. It's a hard balance to adjust to.

This is so true, Kerri! I'm so glad that you have people in your life that WANT to learn and know about your life with diabetes. I always feel the most cared for by my friends and family when they check in with me, make sure I'm okay, and try and use diabetic lingo! But, I still have to correct myself when, without thinking, I say something like, "I feel really high right now." :)Thanks for always sharing and making us feel like we aren't alone.

My wife and I have been married for 9 years and together for 12. There are times that I think she knows my diabetes better than I. A couple of years ago we were vacationing in London with a friend of mine. During the middle of a conversation, she said "You need to test your bloodsugar; I think you're low." When asked by my friend how she knew, my lovely bride matter-of-factly said "because he's STUPID!" She knows me when I'm low. She knows me when I'm high.

My four-year old even gets in on the lingo--she's always asking if I have my meter when I leave the house and asking me if I remembered to shoot up before I eat dinner. She likes to see the result when I test and tell me if my number is "not too high!" or "Wow. That's crazy!"

Somehow, even though she can't really do much, it's nice to have that kind of support--the kind that just takes it for granted that Mom's got extra stuff to do, and it's no big thing. For the rest of my family, it's still kind of a big thing--it's a lot for them to remember, since they knew me "in the before time". :)

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